You’d learn how to drain yourself to make other people more comfortable or joyful, even to the point of embarrassment. Like at work, there are new people who are shy and awkward, so I act goofy so they understand they can be themselves. It creates a better work environment, but it can make me look unprofessional. I also just ended a relationship that went on way too long. I was afraid that they couldn’t handle me leaving. They’d be too sad and come up with excuses for why they needed me or my support. I’m learning to not drain myself by learning what I like about myself and not defining myself by someone else’s needs. I’m also trying surround myself people who don’t need as much so I won’t have to do it as instinctivly.